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Postby Brenda N on Sat May 05, 2007 10:53 pm

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Postby Mommax4 on Sun May 06, 2007 2:27 am

Wow, reading this thread has been amazing for me.
I also struggled with breastfeeding. After going to prenatel classes before I had my first son and listening to how "if you want to do good for your baby then breastfeed" . It turned out I couldnt breastfeed.....They never once said in my prenatel classes about woman who sometimes cant....And so Im in the hospital with this starving little baby who is screaming and screaming...because I didnt have milk...My milk never came in....The nurses made me pump and pump and pump...and nothing....They didnt want me giving up, and wouldnt give me formula for him....I say their bawling my eyes out because he was so hungry....And being a month early, this poor little baby was already having some issues.
The day we got out of the hospital I bought him formula and he was sooo happy. I had health nurses visiting me at home...bringing me pumps, nipple sheilds, and all the info...pushing me into making it work...So I tried....for 3 months I pumped...trying to get something...in the end I could only get about 1 ounce of milk a day...I felt terrible not being able to give this "liquid gold" to my son...and they made me feel terrible..

With our second I was prepared for the same thing to happen, I ended up being able to breastfeed him for a month with only breastmilk, which was awsome...I loved every minute of it.. Until again...my breastmilk was pretty much zilch. BUT, I had a midwife this time, and she was so proud of me because I kept going and giving him everything I had. She wouldnt let a public health nurse near me because of what happened last time.

For my entire first pregnancy thats all I could do was look forward to breastfeeding my new baby, and when I couldnt and the nurses made me feel like crap because I couldnt....I ended up with post partum depression....badly...very very badly..
I had my gallbladder out 1 week after our son was born, and ended up back in the hospital...and so, we had a really rough start....
I really cant get over how terrible the health nurses were to make me feel like a really really !@#$% mom.

Anyways, thanks for posting Brenda....
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Postby LilyVon on Sun May 06, 2007 9:45 am

I'm so sorry to the women who were unable to breastfeed and had no support or comfort.
When I did my prenatal class and things they did say Breast is best and all that, but I never got a bad reaction when I stopped breast feeding her at 5 months. After she was born it took a few days for my milk to come in...I did pump in the hospital and gave her the tiny amounts of colostrum I had, but after that the nurses gave me formula for her in a syringe (so she wouldn't have nipple confusion). I never felt guilty or bad for having to do that. DD and I were never able to get a good feed going. She was a sleepy feeder and a comfort feeder. She'd latch on and use my nipple as a pacifier. I tried everything. Taking her clothes off tickling her poking her, ect to try to get her to just feed. Nothing worked. I ended up having to co-sleep with her just so she could latch on to my nipple for 3/4 of the night to sleep. It was terrible. Also through these months I was on the BC pill that is allowed while breast feeding, but found it was not strong enough and I was having my period every 2 weeks. I decided I had to use a stronger pill and give up my attempts at breast feeding. I can't say I wasn't sad... I did feel guilty, like i hadn't tried hard enough, but I knew I had. I pumped I tried all the tricks, I talked to my Dr's and I had to realize it just wasn't going to work. No one ever made me feel bad for it. My Husband was supportive, family, and friends. I'm so thankful they were. Also the formula we are giving our babies is not like the goats milk given to infants 100's of years ago. I have so many friends who were formula fed, and I have friends who formula feed their babies. I can't tell any differences between any of us who were breast fed as apposed to formula fed in the last 25 years. The Dr's I went to told me the formula's we have today are perfectly ok to use and have great nutrition in them.
All you women out there who are currently struggling with breastfeeding and are worried about switching to formula. Don't worry. You arn't the first women to formula feed and you won't be the last. Your babies will strive and be nurished and happy. You are all doing the right thing for you, your babies, and your lives.
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Postby mumeee99 on Sun May 06, 2007 10:52 am

Brenda, great post and so true! I couldn't BF my first 2 children for various reasons but I did successfully bf my youngest and I can't tell you the difference it made in ME and my confidence, silly huh? I look back and think how ridiculous that my confidence in being a Mother rested on whether I could nurse, ridiculous!

I'm glad you put this out there, it is so important for people to read. BFing is truly a personal decision and one not taken lightly by any parent I'm sure. Fact is that some women just can't do that, and it doesn't make them any less of a Mother than those who can which seems to be a difficult concept for our society to grasp.

I heard a lot of "if you really wanted to you could have" which made me feel guilty for years. I also heard a lot of "well maybe if you had BF your children would be healthy", I'm sure you can imagine the guilt that brought on.

I'm so glad you posted this, it lets other Mother's know they aren't alone in the "fight".

Thank you :)
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Postby saucy on Thu May 10, 2007 6:06 pm

I have heard - don't know if it true - that you can only get milk from the bank for medical reasons - i.e. preemies, etc. Which is too bad if it is true. Does anyone know?
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Postby D on Thu May 10, 2007 8:05 pm

I called today to see about donating. It sounds like a bit of a pain (all the red tape) but I'd be curious if anyone else has done it.
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Postby mumeee99 on Thu May 10, 2007 8:08 pm

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