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Postby WCM on Sun Jan 30, 2005 9:44 pm

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Postby Brenda N on Sun Jan 30, 2005 10:18 pm

Ah WCM, I'm ever so proud of you. ever so!!
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Postby jj on Sun Jan 30, 2005 11:48 pm

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If he says he'll help you, then take the help. Don't be a martyr. He's working during the day AND SO ARE YOU! You need that sleep.

Does a lack of sleep make you depressed? Yes.

Personally, I do nudge hubby in the middle of the night when my older one awakens. He doesn't mind.

As for those days off... simply ask him to get up, take babe into the other room without waking you and allow you to sleep in. It's so much easier than napping.

It's nice to hear he's so supportive. What would you do if the situations were reversed? You'd asked to be woken up, too, right?

And, as for the 50's momma. I am there with you. I hate to say it, but I clean the kitchen before dh comes home and dinner is there warming up.... not because I want to, but because it's the only way the house functions well.

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Postby SamanthaMV on Mon Jan 31, 2005 12:00 pm

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Postby Tamji on Mon Jan 31, 2005 4:43 pm

Samantha, I LOVE your calling his cell phone idea!!!

Meg, you're right, all the other mommies are right, take him up on his offer to help, you're got a great partner and awesome daddy there.

It took me a while to realize too that even tho I'm not commuting to an office every day, I am still working -- and I'm working a helluva lot more hours than daddy is. That doesn't mean I'm better or whatever, but dammit I'm tired at night.

So we take turns...one night I get up, one night he gets up. Any you know what? When he's having a crappy week at work, I take up the slack because I know he respects me and I respect him and there's no need to keep score because it all works out.

I felt myself slipping into the perfect 50's wife rut, laundry all done, folded, put away, house tidy, house smelling all dinner-like, and then on those totally crappy days, when I'm stressed out already, I'd get even MORE stressed out because *oh my GAWD* the house is a little messy! Then the fight would be on, and it was nothing he did, it was me expecting too much of myself..

bla bla bla....ok I forgot what I was trying so eloquently to say :wink:

ummm.....do your best during the week, be grateful to have such a wonderful partner, tell each other thanks, and most of all -- RELAX -- on the weekend. Spend all day Saturday in your jammies and just flop on the couch...who cares? When I was growing up, my mom was always go go go, I hated weekends cuz she'd be scrubbing and cleaning like a mad woman. Hello? Where's the family fun???

I really enjoyed reading everyone's comments by the way!
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Postby WCM on Mon Jan 31, 2005 5:36 pm

hey meg, are you also coping/adjusting to a new lifestyle, one where colin is home every night? i mean, before, he took the kids away, you had at least 24 hours to yourself. that is probably something you needed, since it was happening anyway, and now you've got your 'new boyfriend' so to speak, coming home each night, kwim?

don't get me wrong, i love my dh. but if he could be out at work 3-4 nights, after i get the kids to bed, it'd be a mighty peaceful, clean house over here.

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