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Re: Laying the Groundwork - before they are teens

Postby OnceHarmony on Fri Mar 15, 2013 2:08 pm

It's tough to make predictions, especially about the future ― Yogi Berra
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Re: Laying the Groundwork - before they are teens

Postby change on Sat Mar 16, 2013 6:29 pm

Apparently girls involved in team sports are less likely to be sexually active in their teens, and are less likely to use drugs...
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Re: Laying the Groundwork - before they are teens

Postby murf1511 on Fri Apr 05, 2013 1:06 pm

I don't think anyone has to tell Brenda that it's family that lays the
groundwork :-o
She's pretty grounded :lol:
I agree with it all starts at home. I also think that keeping your children/teens organized (Whether that be with sports, church, family, or other group activities) that there is less likelihood that they will stray off the path you have laid out
(I mean "path" in the broadest sense of the word as I highly doubt it ever turns out the way anyone plans!)
If no one is "present", how can your kids have a clue? Kids will be influenced by outside forces if parents allow it.
Movies and TV shows, AGE APPROPRIATE! I can't tell you how many times I hear that this young teen or tween has seen this movie or that show and the content is either violent or sexual and so inappropriate for the age! I try to feed of what my kids are ready for and some of my kids are quite sensitive so I go with that. They will see it all when they are ready for it. I'm not even ready for some content!
I also know that knowing where your teens are no matter what there age is important. If you don't know that then how do you know what they are up to? Drop them off and pick them up or have timelines and CHECK on them! SPOT CHECK! Also be the home that they want to be in! Them and their friends!
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Re: Laying the Groundwork - before they are teens

Postby Brenda N on Sat Apr 06, 2013 4:43 pm

Making the world a better place, one container at a time :-)


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Re: Laying the Groundwork - before they are teens

Postby Brenda N on Sat Apr 06, 2013 4:48 pm

Making the world a better place, one container at a time :-)


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Re: Laying the Groundwork - before they are teens

Postby Peter on Sat May 18, 2013 11:38 pm

The teen years challenged us to the point where we considered attending AA proactively. I highly recommend an intervention before anyone hits the "need" for the bottle and subsequently AA as a result. It was rough. We were strict and of course different from most parents, the poor kid, we mortified her. She hated how we lived, ate, that we drove a grease car, that we had rich dinner debates and that we talked openly about everything. Family time was more pain than pleasure but we did it anyway.

Now that we're safely through teen hell she calls us her best friends, she thinks we're not strict enough with our youngest and she's constantly asking cooking or health questions, jumps into dinner debates and won't let us slack on any family traditions or family time. We have never all laughed so much together. It's amazing and a huge relief.

In the end I think our commitment to family, even when it was painful (and we honestly fantasized about pulling each others teeth out at times) and our insistance of talking about anything were the most important groundwork we laid. We failed at lots along the way but not many parents can say they breezed through it but she tells us now that she knew that no matter what we said or did we always were there for her and her best interest was always our priority. This parenting teens gig is not for the weak and now we shake our heads regularly at how amazing our teen has turned out and how strong our relationship is with her.
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Re: Laying the Groundwork - before they are teens

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Re: Laying the Groundwork - before they are teens

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Re: Laying the Groundwork - before they are teens

Postby organic momma on Sun May 19, 2013 7:13 pm

"It's not due to laziness that someone is poor, it's not due to a lack of ambition or lack of intelligence its because they lack things that we take advantage everyday" Living on one dollar a day
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