Secure Attachment is Important to Children
It is a challenge for parents with unresolved trauma to raise a baby. They see the baby as themselves and feel the child’s vulnerability. For example, it is essential for a parent who has experienced sexual abuse to get help to overcome this trauma. Parents who are able to reflect on their experiences, even negative ones, and make sense of them, can develop a secure attachment with their child.
You Can Reframe Your Experience
In life, it isn’t what happens to you that is most important, it is how you make sense of the experience. Parents’ ability to make sense of what has happened to them in their own childhood is the best predictor of their child’s ability to become securely attached.
Dr. Dan Siegel